Briefly, last year, kid 2 nearly died. The last few weeks have been about surviving the anniversary of trauma.
Best strategy
Questions (e.g.) -- what color is her hair? Where is she right now? Where is her bed?...
Answers (e.g.) -- brown, at work, in the basement where she moved her room...
Response to answer: Well then, logic would dictate that she survived and she isn't about to die.
The week went fairly smoothly.
More later.